Over at revgals Kathyrnjz says:
I do remember my first best friend she was a German girl called Jane, we both attended the same International School in Kuala Lumper, Malaysia. The nature of both of our fathers' professions meant that we only knew one another for a few years and then lost touch. I eventually moved to England, and I know her family went to Thailand but i don't know where she is today.
I spent the better part of last week on a continuing education cruise with a group of revgals. Both the class on hospitality and the connections made with friends (old and new) were phenomenal. I always have a difficult time with re-entry into reality from times away but this, aided by getting nailed with strep throat, has been more difficult than usual. Not only does it a take a few days (weeks? months?) for it to stop feeling like I am on a boat, but my heart misses my friends.
In parish life the boundaries are clear and they are there for a reason, but it can make the life of a minister a lonely one. It is such a tremendous gift to spend a few days with women who not only are wonderful and gifted, but who also get exactly what you do and why you do it. The hugs are genuine and free and the laughter is awesome.
Many of us have friendships - past and present - with these same qualities. And so today we will celebrate Friday with friendship:
1) Do you remember your first best friend? What did you do together? Are they still in your life?
Our lives only really connected through school, and the local exp-pats club, I had a very privileged, but strangely lonely childhood.
2) Did you ever have to move away or have your best friend move away from you?
See above, it has been an ongoing theme throughout my life though as a lot of moving makes longterm friendship difficult, it is easier now, but has always been a problem.
3) Are there people in your life now that you can call 'friend'?
Yes, but once again I have moved away from many of them. I am planning to meet up with one friend in June, and hope to see some others when we holiday and sail down in Norfolk this summer. I often envy folk who have always lived in the same place.
I also have a number of on-line friends who have become real friends and not acquaintances, also facebook and blogging help me to keep up with folk I might otherwise have lost touch with. Friendship has been kind of re-defined by cyber-space, but it is too easy to call someone friend via facebook, many of my fb friends are really net-working contacts.
That said Tim and I are now finding time to become real friends again (sometimes family life makes that difficult!), we went sailing today, and that was good!
4) What are some of your favorite things to do with your friends?
Have time to talk, that might be while we are out walking, it might be just sitting and sharing a cup of tea or a glass of wine ( depends on the time of day)!
5) What is a gift friendship has given you?
The greatest gift of friendship is the permission to be yourself with someone, and time...perhaps in todays fast paced and fragmented word it is one of the best gifts we can give!